When were you(are you) allowed to date and when SHOULD you be allowed to date?

Well I had my first boyfriend in grade 3, but it was long distance, so it wasnt that bad, but I'd make my kids wait till there at least grade 4 or 5.

I started dating when I was about 13 but I would say 16+.

Well I'm allowed to have a boyfriend now(and I had one when I was in the 3rd grade), but I can't go on a date with him. Can anybody tell me why you think my mom lets me have a boyfriend and lest him come over, but she won't let me go on a date with him?

i had my first boyfriend when i was 13, and my first gf when i was 15.. i think 14 is a good age to start moving towards dating, but i think it really should be a bit later for homosexual stuff as there are more consequences about that stuff. i think it depends alot on the guy/girl that whoever is dating as well and how fast things are moving.

Well, in my town?

If you're not dating by eround eight or nine, there's something wrong with you. ^.^

Now, this annoys me, because... I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm not looking for one...
And people decide to use it as their Ammo.
I'm one of those "never been kissed" chicks, yeah?
So this girl who doesn't like me, thinks she's hurting me real bad when she says "Oh, here comes the lip virgin" everyime she see's me.

It's so lame.

Anyway, Getting back on topic, where I come from, it's acceptable to start dating really young, even thought the relationships probably only last a week or two.

At highschool things get more serious, which I guess is a good thing. :D

i still never really got the point of the term "lip virgin".. like it fits its obvious meaning but it just sounds off if u ask me. we dont say that here, "never been kissed" maybe, not "lip virgin"

most of my friends have never been kissed and they are all 16/17/18. but me and my friends are weird and i guess ive had enough to make up for them <_<

Right- I started dating in year 6, but thats obviously not serious.
I go to an all girls school so don't see many boys :P but my first serious relationship (my current one) i started at age 15.

I think you should let them start whenever... if you don't theyll do it behind your back any way so yeah. Rebel rebel

I think 14-16 depends on the maturity level of the two that are getting into the relationship.

as far as i can tell it just happens when it happens. some people mature at different rates and there for get an interest for dating at different ages.

Lol now please tell me how can that happen just by dating? I suppose we cant dance either?

because when he comes over she is there (most likely) and she feels more secure about the situation. But when you go out shes not there so you could do what ever you wanted which in her mind is probably having sex or kissing etcc.

I'd say 17. Before that, I think you'd still be a little to young for that. Let's say you're 15 and had several failed attempts at a relationship because you date a guy/girl. You don't need that, who'd want something like that. That way, I think 17 is when most people are most responsible and don't think they are when they're younger.

I'm not saying you can have close friends, go ahead. Fact of the matter is, whenever you feel you're most responsible to take on the responsibilities of the dating world.

(in response to Marzon) But isn't failing at relationships when your in your teens a good thing? It is. I say 13.

A break up is always hard for both people, and when your younger relationships are generally shorter lived and less meaningful, so the break ups are less harsh. its kinda pessimistic but if you get through a few lesser break ups your more ready for later ones. ..

I agree with you. My first 'relationship' break up was devastating. I thought it was the end of the world, I was crushed. At the time I didn't know that it only made things better for me. My next relationship was better and the one after even better then the first. Break-ups weren't as hard because I was learning something from each one of them. I think my early teen relationships have prepared me for more 'real' relationships that actually last over a year.

i think having a few failures first not only desensitizes you to break ups but thinking about it, it also allows u to have comparison for the future. most people do not find their perfect relationship straight off, they have a few and compare them i guess. if u only have one relationship then i don't believe that they appreciate it as much.

Well break ups would be better than nothing atleast you would have something for a bit :)

very well stated ^^. being alone sucks.

Your mom might not trust him :(

correction: ur mom almost certainly doesn't trust him. :P

Why will that put you in hell? Show me a verse in the bible that says that. Trying to make sence out of the mom thing lol, but mine would prefer we did not date til we were 30.

the mom thing is that she is only allowed to have her boyfriend over and not go out in public with him cause her mom doesnt trust him to be around her daughter in an unsupervised area such as at a park or shops.

:Blush: Thanks should have read back into the thread lol. Well something that might fix that is for your mom to get to know him better to were she might trust him with you?

thats cool, lol. and that suggestion could very well work ^^ great idea.

Bwahahahahahaha.

:)

Don't expect anyone to take you seriously. ;)
It's obvious that your talking out of your rear end.

I leave room for a contradiction, but until you have some solid proof, and I mean solid, not "written a thousand years ago, by some guy who says he saw something," I stand by what I say.

Okay?
Cool.

very well put. I don't know why, but i really just feel that things like this should be handled with logic etc. not really religion or even morals in some cases, because logic just seems to apply more across the board. i don't know if that belongs here, its more of a general statement.

Like yeh your mum might not trust him, and she doesnt want you having sex. it might be a religious thing but i think its also a she doesnt want u pregnant thing..


if that made any sense at all...

Trust me, the statement made about going to hell doesnt carry any religious references other than what may have been pounded into their head.

Either way, Completely false... some people dont even go to hell for murder, but im sure that repeat offense sex offenders have their own playpin in hell.

Looooong explanasion about how you go to hell or heaven, but dating is the least important part. ;)

So, dating can be viewed as a relationship under self-moderation. Not a "hellatious" decision :P

my mum didn't trust me my first real relationship was at age 14 ( which ended Jan. ) well my mum being the silly outgoing peson she is...well my first date was a DOUBLE DATE WITH MY MOTHER! now thats very embarrasing going on a double date with your mother and her 20something boyfriend... but right now im going out with a guy who is 3 years older than me, i know my mum wouldn't aprove so im hiding the relationship from her ( which BTW is NOT ADVISED)

yeh i must admit my parents dont know im dating anyone till we have been dating for quite awhile. Im bi, so i guess in some ways its easier, i can pass of some of them as just chick friends.

yeah im not really sure if id call myself straight or bi i kinda really like this one chick which is weird everytime i'm around her i litereal wanna grab her and kiss her which has never happened to me before...but i have madeout with a chick ...but my mum hates bi people so im kinda scared so i try to stay away from the girl but i dont wanna hurt her feelings becuz she likes me as well and so now i ask how old do you think a person will be b4 they figure this stuff out????

i don't actually think its a age thing. i think its just a reflection thing. experience and understanding play a key role. I think at the end of the day no matter how sure u may seem, if you start questioning, you will always be left questioning.

There is other sides of the scale tho, i know people who are 100% certain and thats cool. there is no normal in things like this.

:blink: great..........got to love being a flipping teenager

i dont know. i dont think its really that bad. just chillax and let it work its self out.. just flow. :hugs: