Hello =] I have a question. When I was growing up my home was very.. different. Feelings were frowned upon unless you were my father and mother. If 'I' felt scared, unhappy, excited, whatever it was. It was the "we don't want to hear about it", it was wrong to feel sad or pain when people died I couldn't cry or be mad it was just wrong I don't know why. My parents would cry, be angry whatever they wanted as I listened and tried to console but when I needed to vent myself I always got the "I don't want to hear it right now" "Can you tell me later" when later never came or if it did it was the same response. Another common phrase was "I dont need this, I have enough to deal with already".

This was really hard on me and now that Im a bit a older its the same way maybe even worse. My problem is that I have begun to feel very 'cold-hearted' to friends. I hear often from them that "I don't care about nothing" or "I don't listen to them ever" when the have problems or what not.

I'm not trying to do this, honestly Im not and it has ruined many relationships. What can I do?


http://teenhelp12.proboards57.com/index.cg...read=1172295961
thats the thread before^

In response to previous posters =]

I think I might force myself to open up to my friends. Its going to be VERY hard. I always thought this was just... normal.

That sopunds horrible :(
I know it used to be the same in my house hold, but not to that extent.
Then I went through my *problem* stage and every thing changed

I agree with what every one else is saying. Just take it slowly, and don't fell bad if you can't open up easily.

If forcing yourself is what you have to do then do it. Sometimes you have to get into your uncomfortable zone to get comfortable with it. It probably will be hard but I know you can do it. :heart:

So today I was feeling upset I guess and I went to tell my friend but I didn't tell her everything. I only told her things that weren't really important and even that made me feel really uncomfortable.

Thats a step! If you can open up to people, you can d it more and more. If I didn't have my friends to lean on I'd go crazy!
SO yeah. Well done :)

That would suck. If you don't feel ready to open up to your friends.. you can ALWAYS talk to us on here, also if you would like you could PM me, I'm always here hunn