Okay, my friend wanted me to ask you all what to do. She's eleven-years-old and is in need of help. When I told her about this site she wanted help on a certain problem. If you guys could help her out that'd be awesome.


Madi has this friend named Nicole. Nicole has a very fucked up life. Madi hasn't just noticed, I've noticed it too. Her parents are divorced and her older sister, whom she looks up too, hates her and shows it very well. Today Nicloe ran up to her sister and tried to give her a hug. Her sister pushed her off of her and told her to go away. Madi says from talking to Nicole that her sister tells her to get out of her room when she wanted some boy advice her sister threw Nicole out of the room.

Nicole's mother gets drunk a lot. Sometimes she's just in a party mode, other times she hits Nicole. Madi says she sees bruises on her, but just sometimes.

Nicole has a lot of anger built up inside of her and anyone with working eyes can literally see it on her face. Nicole needs someone to take her anger out, so she chooses Madi, because she knows Madi won't do anything about it. Madi is very upset about this and has cried numerous ammounts of times.

I know you all have wonderful advice from what I've read and the wonderful advice you all have given me, so could you help her out? Thanks.

Its very difficult to watch a friend go through things like this. Has Nicole ever confided in your friend or you? Maybe Nicole would like to talk to a kids helpline? Even if you see the bruises sometimes, One time is too many. I hope Nicole can find it in her self to tell someone who can help her who lives near you, perhaps a school counseller, your parents, a paster, etc. There are also kids helplines she can call to get help or advice which do not show up on phone bills. It would be very understandable is she did have built up anger, Anybody would. I hope she knows that it's okay to feel angry but she needs to tell someone. Her anger is a cry for help, a way to express herself in the only way she knows how. If her mom is abusing her she needs to get help, abuse leaves scars that could last forever, the sooner she receives some help the better.

In most places its actually illegal not to tell someone if you know someone that is living in a unhealthy enviorment, I don't know where you live but you might want to look that up. Its never to late to speak up and possibly save a friends life, you never know when someone under the influence of alcohol could seriously hurt your friend without meaning to do so. Some case end with death. I'm not trying to be harsh but it is the truth, it only takes one time to get hit the wrong way. Alcohol impairs peoples judgement and reactions. Please if Nicole will not tell someone, you or Madi should. Its for the best.

I hope you all do what is right, abuse happens all over the world each day, each hour, each minute don't let it happen to someone you care about. Be her voice, Be her shoulder, Be there for her. I wish you all the best. I hope I wasn't too straight forward I hate to see kids abused by parents.

It's not a lot of abuse. It's kind of the normal slap a mother gives to a mouthy child. It's not as bad as it really sounds. I haven't personally seen any of the scars. Madi has. I can get more info from Madi.

I don't even know any child hotlines we could use and I don't think Nicole would turn toward those. I can get Madi to talk to the couselor and try to get Nicole in there, but Nicole probably won't go on her own free will.

Nicole's mother loves Nicole very. very much, so I think she can control how bad she hits. I don't think she would do anything to harm Nicole. I haven't noticed any bruises on Nicole's sister either and apperently niether has Madi. I'll talk to Madi tomorrow or as soon as I can.

It's not the abuse that worries me the most, it's the neglect. I mean, you really, really should see this girl. She looks horrible. I also don't know if the abuse thing is a cry for attention or real. I'll need to talk to Madi.

Thanks for the advice though Beautiful. Madi appriciates it.

Okay, I got Madi to tell me a bit more.

Nicole isn't abused daily like you probably would draw from that. It's only been like once or twice. The main thing that goes on is neglect from her sister mostly and neglect from her mother. Whenever her mother is drunk, she's just in the "Party mood" and her kids party with her. That's about it. Sorry if it sounded like she was abusing Nicole a lot.