let me start off with saying i just turned 15 so..im not exactly the smartest person around...im bi..i know this ...ive known this for awhile....ya see it started out as a joke in the begining of the year 2 of my friends were making fun of me becuz my 1st kiss was from a chick ( iwas only 9 and it was a dare!!!!!) and they kept making fun of me and me being the stubborn person i am desided to prove them wrong. i was certainly not a lesbian so what at the time i hadnt even got my first kiss from a guy and you could count the amount of guys ive dated w/ one hand....and so that was it i was gonna prove them wrong i kissed a girl in front of them and told both of them it didn't bother me one bit....turned out it did.................but anywayz were not going into details bout that we moved and i changed schools...now here comes the thing my mums homophopic she swears up and down she not but everytime the subject comes up she goes on bout how they're (les/bi/gay) are gonna burn in hell and its nasty....last friday i kissed this girl and its getting to me becuz my bestfriend is homophobic as well and she thinks im straight...i really wanna tell my mum but we jus started getting along again but with that i feel like i keep lying more and more to her....i have a felling if she knew she wouldn't approve/love/like me anymore or shed be dissapionted ...she always goes on how a persons sexuailty is there own choice and how that THOSE things are choices people make and that its not nature .....BUT I CANT CHANGE IT!!! ive tried i really have but i cant i really want to but....im attracted to sum girls...wth should i do?? should i tell her? or hell i dont know could someone help me out ???please?
I dont know how you should tell your parents or how you should tell your friends but i am going to say that you really need not kill yourself over this. there are alot of people out there who have yet to come out to their parents and there will be a right time, it seems to me that this isnt really the best of them. i think you also have to consider that if your friends cannot love you for who you are that they might not be the best people to have as friends. being Bi is a beautiful thing and it lets you experience so many sides of things, never ever for one moment think that it is something to be ashamed of or something wrong. You mom does love you and you need to try and think of things from her point of veiw. she probably grew up in a more conservative environment and if you do end up with a girl then it means she might not have grandchildren. [an esspecially scary thought if your an only child]. I think that alot of people go through a Bi section of their life when they are younger and they are finding themselves, so there is a chance that you will end up with a guy and it will become a non-issue. im 17, bi and im not ditching the thought that i will grow out of it, it could happen. my point is, be happy with who you are and dont let people get to you, as long as you can see the beauty in it, little else matters. be strong.
if you ever want to talk cause i dont think this is the first thread you have made or just someone to rant to add me. dw. its not weird or anything.
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Hi hun. Telling your parents and your friends is one of the hardest parts of being gay/bi and it really isnt fair since people dont have to go around telling everyone their straight. Anyway it is totally up to you if you want to tell your mom or not. Only you can know if/when it is the right thing to do. However if you do decide to tell her one of the easiest ways is to write a letter and then leave it where she can find it before you go over to a friends or something she she can have some time to think about it and not just say whatever her first reaction to reading it. And know that it may take her some time to get used to it.
Good luck.